For a very long time, infact as long as I can remember all I ever saw around me growing up were mom's who felt that they had to make a choice between raising their children "right" or pursing their dreams and having a career.
In essence it seemed like the whole world got that message, from every tv programme, to every film, to every book or magazine, it all portrayed that same message. "you cannot have a successful career and be a mom". I think that message at one point was so ingrained in people's subconscious that everyone without question just accepted and it became the cultural norm, you have a child and you get any job that would allow you to be a "good mom"(if it all). What was increasingly apparent with this message, was the effect it had on mom's against other mom's who wanted to have a recognisable career. The amount of fear based negativity that mom's would throw at each other for not accepting this cultural norm was ridiculous. Being labelled a "bad mom" or "selfish" or even going as far a predicting a gloomy future for the child because she dared to purse her career.
The mom that decides to purse her dreams in effect becomes a sitting target, not only does she face a lack of accommodation in a leadership position, making her have to work harder to dispel the perception of a "mom" but she also has to deal with the lack of support from the other mom's who were led to believe that the only way they can be a "good parent" is when they dedicate all their time and effort to doing so.
Of course non of the opinions or perceptions were actually based on factually evidence, in retrospect it seemed to be more based on a version of their truths created by their world that they could identify with.
So I guess the questions was what are mom's meant to do when faced with such opposition, but of course retreat and accept the social cues. Because honestly who really wants to go against all that drama just to pursue their passions.
Is it really worth it?
This is why it's worth it- To not enter the working world we lose an amazing amount of talent and leaderships skills that Mom's naturally possess through the coaching, motivating, inspiring and nurturing that they do.
To not enter the workplace we facilitate the inflexibility of the customary 9-5, I mean are these really productive hours that meets the needs of customers around the world.
To not enter leadership positions we dont allow for the creation and the promotion of an inclusive fairly represented working environment. But most importantly by not entering the workplace into leadership positions we silence our voice and to some extent the future voices of our children.
And I know there is this notion that mom's are "flakey" "not committed" etc but lets be honest we cannot be fobbed off with that shhh anyomre. As a mom you will know if you ever had to rush your child to A&E in the early hours of the morning only to be release a few hours later with a sticker and a smile and still having to get to the school parents meeting for 9am because you are the one who's chairing it, you will know "not committed" is NOT in a mom's vocabulary.
My only ask from this is that all mom's recognise these transferable qualities within and know that you already are leadership material and are the next CEO in the making. The strategic vision you have, is to raise your children to be the very best version of themselves, whilst leading them into their greatness, by walking in your own.