A little window into my life….
I started Leonie Caines Coaching with one wish and that was that mothers felt empowered enough to live an exceptional life that made them happy.
I am a mother of two and having my children completely changed my life, I know it sounds cliche but each one of there arrivals awakened me to the truth of motherhood.
When my Son came into my life almost 10 years ago I was in a loving relationship with his father, planning an amazing life together, but as you know life doesn't always go to plan.
Somewhere along the course of this plan I forgot to be me, I forgot to keep checking in with me and I stopped honouring my worth, In fact at some point I didn’t even believe in my worth, as all I wanted to have was this picture perfect vision of a family that I had been made to feel was the only goal that a mother should want.
And if I am honest that was a dangerous plan that only lead to disaster because I never really checked with myself what I truly wanted.
So you can guess what happened when we both went our separate ways, in true form to every stereotype of a single mother, I got lost.
I felt shame, bitterness, self-conscious, broken, angry towards him and angry towards myself for putting my son and me in that position.
But In all truth what spoke louder to me was my ego and that ego was imagining all the critical judgement that other people would say to me, which by the way, did not outweigh the critical judgement I had for myself.
For over two years I stood still in my life questioning and over analysing every move I made, comparing myself to other mothers, whilst hearing in the back of my mind the social statistics on single mothers being able to raise successful children.
Fearing the worst, I began to believe that I was not a good mother and imagined the social hardships that my son would suffer because of our circumstances.
I had begun to trap myself by these excuses and my circumstances became the box in which I began to operate out of.
At the time it seemed far more easier to live with that lie and to believe in anything other than myself, than admit only I had the power over my life to create whatever I wanted to experience.
When life seems hard it seems wiser to retreat, to seek your truth and validation from familiar sources or in the opinions of others, rather than believing in yourself and paving your own way so you may dance to your own tune.
My lessons from life, from motherhood is why i'm now piercing through the veil of motherhood and throwing out the perceptions that keep us small or stops us from living our best life now.
Motherhood needs a new narrative, its time to change that narrative from sacrificers to leaders. We have spent too long buying into the perception of what a mother should look like, act like, whether we are getting it wrong or right, judging each other and being judged by those who are not mothers.
All the time we are being immersed in that hopeless feeling and forgetting our power as a mother.
In some cases we even begin to question our worth and lose our confidence, we start to believe our role as mothers are just as carers when really we are leaders, we lead the next generations future leaders, our children.
It is our vision, our motivation and our courage that allows them to be available for the opportunities that this world has to offer them.
It is also because of us that they are able to create a life that may not seem possible to others.
I learnt along my journey that we can not do that successfully until we are empowered and confident of our own worth in this world.
I run Leonie Caines coaching because I know mothers deserve to have a life that brings harmony between their parental responsibilities and their personal goals.
I am the founder of The CEOMOM message(Create Empower Overcome) and I know from experience how important it is to give mothers the tools and support to thrive in this life.
I also know it can be done and it must be done the way you desire it to be so you can have the confidence to teach your children to live a life that is there own.
I'am Leonie Caines, Motherhood Journey Coach and certified NLP practitioner, whatever support needs you have that will allow you to enjoy and take ownership of your motherhood experience, I can help you navigate your way through your motherhood journey so you are able to create a healthy balanced relationship with yourself and your children.
Whatever your life looks like now it can always be improved if you want it too be.